Post written in January 2015, around eight months after my legal divorce had become finalised. I haven’t changed. That’s a lie. Whenever people come out of some major life changing event and claim to be the same person. It’s quite simply a lie. It’s not possible to remain the same. Is it so shameful […]
Ramadan-ing it
In the lead up to Ramadan, my twitter was clogged up by excited tweets counting down the days to Ramadan and proclaiming how blessed we all are to see another one. Ramadan salutations start with a week to go and everybody seemed oddly giddy, waiting for the go ahead that the month of fasting had […]
A Man’s World
My attempts to put these posts in chronological order has failed a little as I forgot to include this one, written in October 2013. To an extent I still maintain this to be true – you only have to look at recent controversies that have taken place….can you name some? This journey which has unfolded […]
Hidden Soldiers
The bulk of work which I have done in Palestine is centred around vulnerable women and, in this instance, female headed households. One thing which I have always maintained draws me back to Palestine is the energy of the women there, some of whom I’m lucky enough to call friends. During my last visit, […]
That Time of Year Again
I’ve jumped forward a little and this post was written in October 2014. It was common for me in the first few years to end up on a bit of a downer in the leadup to November. So generally my posts from then don’t tend to be the most uplifting. But I think that’s quite […]
Unhelpful One Liners
Facing people again, post-split, has to be one of the hardest things to do so brace yourself if you’re going through one. People panic – do they address the elephant in the room or carry on like nothing in your life has changed? I would rather people have given me some sort of acknowledgment, a […]
Post Karmatic Stress
This post was written as I approached the one year mark of my separation in November 2013. Probably the first real moment of anger laced with feelings of conflict due to the importance my faith places on forgiveness. Whilst fogiveness took a while (quite a while) – don’t feel guilty for any of the […]
Sit Yourself Down
I follow this chap on social media who documents his aid work missions with a charity I’m connected to. I have no doubt he does epic work. He’s blocked me twice in the past though because I’ve tried to debate with him on some pretty rubbish views he has. I’m also pretty sure he’s a […]
Too Soon or Too Scared?
This piece was written in the midst of my divorce in June 2013. Seven months separated at this time and being encouraged to meet men again. Looking back, it wasn’t sensible as I was still very much hurting and trying to heal from events that had taken place. I maintain that six months post breakup […]
Pakistani In-laws
Faryal Makdoom’s outburst on social media, a couple years ago, accusing her in-laws of bullying caused much furore amongst people and has seen a somewhat mixed reaction. The usual mutterings ofcourse that private family matters should stay private whilst others praise her for actions that very much go against Pakistani culture. I can’t say it […]