Izzat

In a lot of cultures, izzat (honour) is a massive concept.  Indo-Pak culture normally uses izzat as a useful emotional blackmail tool.  Don’t do this or you ruin our family name etc. It seems that we can’t escape the “honour” line even after marriage.  My friend, newly married, agreed to live in an extended family […]

I’m App it

I was invited by an organisation to speak about my experiences with marriage apps; my perceptions as to why more and more Muslim women are using them as well as my own on again/off again relationship with them.  I thought I would share a few of the discussions points here and invite you to discuss […]

Absorbing Lockdown

Jamie Theakston playing ‘If the World was Ending’ on the way to work couldn’t have felt more apt for me in the second day of ‘lockdown’.  He imparts his own wisdom after the song finishes – ‘If you’re in love and you haven’t told them yet then tell them now – life is too short!’  […]

Sticks and Stones

I’ve been writing an autobiography of my life which I was supposed to have started months ago and as per usual, I’m scrambling about last minute to get it done.  It forms part of a presentation I’m supposed to make as I start my counselling course.  I work better under pressure anyway…..well that’s what I’m […]